﻿<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?><!--RSS Genrated: Wed, 15 Apr 2026 13:50:19 GMT--><rss version="2.0" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:ev="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/event/"><channel><title>Rethinking Your Future - Caregiving</title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com:443/Home/rss/category/4135/caregiving</link><atom:link href="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com:443/Home/rss/category/4135/caregiving" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" /><description>RSS document</description><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[When love changes shape: dating after mate's dementia]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/when-love-changes-shape-dating-after-mates-dementia</link><enclosure type="image/jpg" url="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/1968/older-man.jpg" length="7487"></enclosure><description><![CDATA[ Recently, a friend shared something with me that quietly broke my heart for him. 

 His wife has advanced Alzheimer’s. She lives in a care community now. She no longer recognizes him. Their ...]]></description><pubDate>Fri, 13 Feb 2026 20:23:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/when-love-changes-shape-dating-after-mates-dementia</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-1968]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Dealing with guilt, a common emotion for caregivers]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/dealing-with-guilt-a-common-emotion-for-caregivers</link><enclosure type="image/jpg" url="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/900/caregiver-guilt.jpg" length="11958"></enclosure><description><![CDATA[ My mother’s recent visit from New Hampshire was one of the highlights of my year thus far, but I can’t help but feel some guilt as I look back upon her stay. 

 Before she came, I was committed to ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 16 Mar 2023 20:04:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/dealing-with-guilt-a-common-emotion-for-caregivers</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-900]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Support for family caregivers is on the way]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/support-for-family-caregivers-is-on-the-way</link><enclosure type="image/jpg" url="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/858/CR-Day-Quote.jpg" length="18389"></enclosure><description><![CDATA[ Today I can count more than 20 friends or relatives who are acting as family caregivers for their loved ones. It’s probably the highest number I can remember in my adulthood. 

 My cousin’s wife ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 24 Feb 2022 18:41:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/support-for-family-caregivers-is-on-the-way</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-858]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Caregiving course offers training many adults need]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/caregiving-course-offers-training-many-adults-need</link><enclosure type="image/jpg" url="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/829/img-caregiver-info-2.jpg" length="16523"></enclosure><description><![CDATA[<img src="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/829/200200p4135EDNthumbimg-caregiver-info-2.jpg" alt="" /> Like many, I entered the role of caregiver without any preparation. 

 My husband and I began caring for our elderly neighbors, Fred and Hildy. Over time we were dealing with a dizzying array of ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 03 Jun 2021 20:33:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/caregiving-course-offers-training-many-adults-need</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-829]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Celebrating the family caregiver]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/celebrating-the-family-caregiver</link><enclosure type="image/jpg" url="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/825/img-caregiving-for-dad.jpg" length="14404"></enclosure><description><![CDATA[<img src="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/825/200200p4135EDNthumbimg-caregiving-for-dad.jpg" alt="" /> Wanda takes pride in the care she provides to her husband, Jim, as he goes through his journey with dementia. 

 Before COVID, Jim attended the Senior Concerns Adult Day Program. Wanda felt his ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 20 May 2021 17:32:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/celebrating-the-family-caregiver</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-825]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[A life is changed in the blink of an eye]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/a-life-is-changed-in-the-blink-of-an-eye</link><enclosure type="image/jpg" url="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/750/img-Elderly-man-in-hospital-300x199.jpg" length="59250"></enclosure><description><![CDATA[<img src="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/750/200200p4135EDNthumbimg-Elderly-man-in-hospital-300x199.jpg" alt="" /> This month, another adult child was drafted into the world of caregiving. Her name is Janet, and she is a 50-something schoolteacher with a husband and two adult children. 

 One would think that ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 30 Jan 2020 17:04:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/a-life-is-changed-in-the-blink-of-an-eye</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-750]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Are we facing a loneliness epidemic?]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/are-we-facing-a-loneliness-epidemic</link><enclosure type="image/jpg" url="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/531/loneliness-in-seniors.jpg" length="14273"></enclosure><description><![CDATA[<img src="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/531/200200p4135EDNthumbloneliness-in-seniors.jpg" alt="" /> Joanie and her husband lived a full life, busy careers and wonderful vacation trips after retirement. 

 Today, Joanie sits silently, alone in front of her television, eating her dinner. 

 ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 31 May 2018 23:16:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/are-we-facing-a-loneliness-epidemic</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-531]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[As parents age, denial sets in for adult kids]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/as-parents-age-denial-sets-in-for-adult-kids</link><enclosure type="image/jpg" url="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/219/Denial.png" length="170784"></enclosure><description><![CDATA[<img src="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/219/200200p4135EDNthumbDenial.png" alt="" /> In my conversations with home-care agencies, residentialcare facilities and hands-on family caregivers, I hear an almost universal challenge: family members who are in denial about their senior ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 05 Oct 2017 18:21:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/as-parents-age-denial-sets-in-for-adult-kids</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-219]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[When caregiving becomes too much]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/when-caregiving-becomes-too-much</link><enclosure type="image/jpg" url="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/226/mom-and-dad-3.jpg" length="17289"></enclosure><description><![CDATA[<img src="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/226/200200p4135EDNthumbmom-and-dad-3.jpg" alt="" /> Over the years, I’ve watched family caregivers perform heroic acts in caring for their loved ones. I’ve seen spouses and adult children give up their work and social life—and essentially any ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 29 Jun 2017 21:30:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/when-caregiving-becomes-too-much</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-226]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Doctor’s order is best gift of all]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/doctors-order-is-best-gift-of-all</link><enclosure type="image/jpg" url="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/237/Palliative-tree.jpg" length="60971"></enclosure><description><![CDATA[<img src="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/237/200200p4135EDNthumbPalliative-tree.jpg" alt="" /> With a yearlong waiting list to enter a skilled-nursing facility for long-term care, my father was placed on palliative care at home recently. While it may not seem so, it was an early  Christmas ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 05 Jan 2017 18:23:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/doctors-order-is-best-gift-of-all</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-237]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[The yin and yang of caregiving]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/the-yin-and-yang-of-caregiving</link><enclosure type="image/jpg" url="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/250/yin-and-yang.jpg" length="107014"></enclosure><description><![CDATA[<img src="https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/Portals/9/EasyDNNNews/250/200200p4135EDNthumbyin-and-yang.jpg" alt="" /> On a recent trip home to  New Hampshire I  felt the yin and yang of family caregiving or, more specifically, the interconnected and sometimes opposing forces of the local family caregiver and the ...]]></description><pubDate>Fri, 01 Jul 2016 17:45:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/the-yin-and-yang-of-caregiving</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-250]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Spa day]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/spa-day</link><description><![CDATA[  Here’s a snippet from a recent phone conversation I had with my mother, who speaks with a thick New England accent. 

  Mom:  “Yesterday I took Daddy for his checkup with the doctor. The doctor ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 15 Oct 2015 23:46:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/spa-day</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-269]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[A future look at caregiving]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/a-future-look-at-caregiving</link><description><![CDATA[  A 2009 study concluded that the majority of family caregivers are white, female, employed, average 50 years of age and help in the care of a relative, often their mother. 

 The support systems ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 11 Jun 2015 19:51:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/a-future-look-at-caregiving</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-277]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[The expanding role of pharmacies for family caregivers]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/the-expanding-role-of-pharmacies-for-family-caregivers</link><description><![CDATA[    As a family caregiver, my local pharmacy has been a great resource for me in the care of my aging loved ones. 

 Besides stocking a cornucopia of items I never thought I’d be searching ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 01 Jan 2015 15:15:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/the-expanding-role-of-pharmacies-for-family-caregivers</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-289]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Nominate a caregiver-friendly workplace]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/nominate-a-caregiver-friendly-workplace</link><description><![CDATA[    A recent article in the Los Angeles Times titled “The Caregiver’s Dilemma” chronicled the author’s struggle to care for herself as she looked after her mother, who has dementia and was in a rehab ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 30 Oct 2014 21:59:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/nominate-a-caregiver-friendly-workplace</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-296]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[My whine moment]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/my-whine-moment</link><description><![CDATA[    For those who know me, I am more apt to have a “wine” moment than a “whine” moment, but every so often you just gotta give in to complaining. 

 Even though I consider myself to be in good ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 11 Sep 2014 09:21:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/my-whine-moment</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-302]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Advice from the experts]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/advice-from-the-experts</link><description><![CDATA[    While caring for her mother with Alzheimer’s disease, my friend Andrea used to host “happy hour” every Wednesday night for friends and neighbors at her Westlake Village home. 

 Andrea’s mom, ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2014 22:13:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/advice-from-the-experts</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-315]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Footing the bill for aging parents]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/footing-the-bill-for-aging-parents</link><description><![CDATA[    Are adult children legally responsible to pay for their parents’ care? 

 You may be surprised to learn that in 30 states, including California, there’s a law on the books that declares adult ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 27 Feb 2014 12:24:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/footing-the-bill-for-aging-parents</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-413]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[What turns us into caregivers?]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/what-turns-us-into-caregivers</link><description><![CDATA[    For Mary, it was when she began taking her dad to doctor visits. For Janice, it was when she began helping her mom in the bathroom. 

 For John, it was when his parent’s overdrawn bank account ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 13 Feb 2014 10:34:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/what-turns-us-into-caregivers</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-412]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Making connections that can help]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/making-connections-that-can-help</link><description><![CDATA[    Last year, five of the women on my block were caring for a surviving parent. The conversation at our neighborhood Halloween party and the chitchat while walking the dogs held a mix of ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 05 Sep 2013 09:15:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/making-connections-that-can-help</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-401]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Caregivers and their spouses]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/caregivers-and-their-spouses</link><description><![CDATA[    There came a time in our marriage when my husband, Peter, did something so extraordinary that I fell in love with him all over again. 

 You might think it was a grand gesture, like a surprise ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 15 Aug 2013 08:37:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/caregivers-and-their-spouses</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-400]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[The “overstuffed” sandwich generation]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/the-ldquooverstuffedrdquo-sandwich-generation</link><description><![CDATA[    Three years ago, my sister Carla became an official member of the sandwich generation. The sandwich generation refers to people who care for their aging parents while supporting their own ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 02 May 2013 13:56:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/the-ldquooverstuffedrdquo-sandwich-generation</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-393]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Accidental caregivers]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/accidental-caregivers-1</link><description><![CDATA[    Our new house brought with it many new things: a new address, a new location and new neighbors. 

 I find it odd that people in the market for a new home would spend so much energy deciding on ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 14 Mar 2013 17:58:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/accidental-caregivers-1</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-389]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Shifting the focus to the caregiver may save a life]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/shifting-the-focus-to-the-caregiver-may-save-a-life</link><description><![CDATA[    If you’ve ever been the caregiver for an impaired elderly loved one, you know where your focus lies almost every minute of every day—with the person you are caring for. 

 My mom is the ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 25 Oct 2012 12:26:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/shifting-the-focus-to-the-caregiver-may-save-a-life</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-380]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[California caregivers stressed, in poor health]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/california-caregivers-stressed-in-poor-health-1</link><description><![CDATA[    Compared to caregivers in the rest of the United States, those in California have higher levels of stress and poorer health. 

 To many of us who work with family caregivers in multiple states, ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 01 Mar 2012 20:39:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/california-caregivers-stressed-in-poor-health-1</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-364]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Being there when you are far away]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/being-there-when-you-are-far-away-1</link><description><![CDATA[    My parents were in their 60s when I moved to California, which is 3,000 miles away from “home.” 

 Caring for my aging parents long distance wasn’t even a consideration at that time. 

 As ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 08 Dec 2011 10:53:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/being-there-when-you-are-far-away-1</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-358]]></dc:identifier></item><item><dc:creator><![CDATA[Andrea Gallagher]]></dc:creator><title><![CDATA[Seven don’ts of dealing with difficult parents]]></title><link>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/seven-donrsquots-of-dealing-with-difficult-parents</link><description><![CDATA[   I recently hosted a meeting of 30 professionals who support seniors in various ways. The focus of our meeting was helping adult children deal with their “difficult” parents. 

 Okay, so maybe ...]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 28 Jul 2011 13:35:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>https://rethinkingyourfuture.com/seven-donrsquots-of-dealing-with-difficult-parents</guid><dc:identifier><![CDATA[c0cd3f4b-6978-4727-9062-4e50ece0c2a4-348]]></dc:identifier></item></channel></rss>